November 17 2012 | AA 12 Steps In Action | Step 11 Daily Meditation Alcoholics Anonymous [ Full daily blog: http://oddbook.co ] Today’s Daily Reflections: “overcoming loneliness: sharing in a general way is pointless and offers no connection…” Similarities and differences are what we hear when people share from the heart. If the adage, “God works through people,” “God listens through people.” General and degraded with a veil over the truth, the devil in the detail of recovery can be lost. It is almost like telling a child that there is nothing to be scared off, when I was a child I felt there was everything to be scared off…
Bone aching loneliness and a desire to blot out this reality grows as we are unable to connect with other people and our outlook and ability to relate diminishes with each breath taken. Night terrors, day terrors and terrors of all sorts grow in a mind cut off from the truth of how other people feel and live their lives. Open, honest and willing to share the truth of how we are, from the heart, and not from a thinking perspective reveals our true feelings. When we degrade our sharing and try to clean it up so it is a general share in a general way, dilutes our sharing of experience, strength and hope…
The man or woman who shares the truth, good, bad and ugly. The emotional torments of having feelings to start with and then losing all sense of feeling about life and the excruciating pain required as we find our feelings extreme when they have no cover up is the most powerful tool to enlighten. It may offend social sensibilities, the language may offend anyone’s sensibilities, I would rather have the vile truth, and the truth of love revealed and the loss of love revealed one day at a time…
Getting to know ourselves in recovery is not done in a general way. Getting to know ourselves, find a pattern of truth, love and growing wisdom is all those elements which are good, bad and ugly. Loneliness comes from fear, if God works through other people and he works through me, I feel God would prefer the unvarnished truth rather than a general halfway house truth which serves no one. And if God listens through other people, how on Earth can God make sense of generalities and not specifics which were given to us by him?
I do find it very irksome when I go to meetings and some people bestow fear on others by saying that they can only share in a general way. And if they have issues and problems which are so dire and uncommon that they cannot share openly, what on earth is the point of sharing at all. Embarrassment, the fact that life isn’t just joyful, the fact that people have to deal with their issues properly and not secretly, for fear of shame and guilt is never going to work and will hold people back. It’s a bit like going to the doctor and telling them that there is nothing wrong generally, “but I died last Tuesday…” Why limit another person’s one shot at telling the truth today because you don’t like their words? Fellowship is about being all in and not half out and half cocked…
Mind you, as Richard Alpert said: “of course I could be wrong.” a.k.a. Ram Dass
When I’m in a meeting and have listened to a person sharing in a general way, I can relate to the general share and to know specifics. If I am fortunate I’ve been around long enough to get the gist and then share back specifically! When I hear a general share and then hear others chime in: “that was powerful!” “I related in a general way to that!” “I feel your pain!” “I cannot tell you how much that meant to me… Because it was so general, it made no sense.” When I am in a meeting where people laugh and cry and can relate truthfully, the power is obvious, and there is no need for superlatives. I am not a puritan with a pointy hat, I am not an individual who would dress piano legs with petticoats, I would rather see its hairy legs!
DonInLondon [ Full daily blog: http://oddbook.co ]
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