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Alcoholics Anonymous | Apr 8 2014 | DonInLondon | Step 4 “Fear Less Inventory”

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Full Daily Blog For 2014: http://donoddylondon.blogspot.co.uk/2014/04/alcoholics-anonymous-april-8-2004-2014.html Alcoholics Anonymous | April 8 2013 | DonInLondon | Step 4 “Fear Less Inventory” step four: “creation gave us instincts for a purpose. Without them we wouldn’t be complete human beings.” First sentences in the twelve and twelve. Natural instincts hardwired into our consciousness, our brain. We have five senses, hardwired to provide instant information. Without these hardwired instincts, we would not be human beings. And for whatever reason, when our instincts are out of balance, our desires for something or someone, probably imbalanced because they do not fit societies codes and morals… The fearless moral inventory highlights where we may be out of step with common codes of behaviour which have been established for generations…

On Saturday, a friend suggested I might be going out with my camera to take photos and they were right, I felt like getting out. I absolutely love taking photographs of people, places and things because I love to see the truth of now. The season is changing and the mood of people is changing. The way places look in the spring, and all sorts of things come to life at this time of year. I feel it and have a desire to be out there. Saturday, still cold and the mood outside in the world seemed depressed. And then out on Sunday, sunshine and warmth, warming people, warming up places, and things are happening. My natural feelings to be in the world and observing and taking part. And seeing the truth of now. I feel attracted to the warmth of the world, the warmth of people, places and things coming alive at last, after a long winter. I am of nature and I love nature and I love people. From the glamorous girl posing for a film crew, to the drunken man shouting on the steps of Saint Martin’s in the fields about the world coming to an end, I see it and feel it in the moment of now… [continues on the blog: http://oddbook.co]

Alcoholics Anonymous, 12 Steps AA, AA Step 4, Addiction And Recovery, DonInLondon, Don Oddy,

AA Official Online Site: Daily Reflections http://www.aa.org/lang/en/aareflections.cfm
AA Official Online Site: Big Book And Twelve And Twelve http://www.aa.org/lang/en/subpage.cfm?page=359

DonInLondon [ Full daily blog: http://oddbook.co ]

April 2013 | AA Big Book Playlist http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLFF5F3EC98C6012A4
April 2013 | AA Twelve Step Playlist http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL3BFA6062268A289D
April 2013 | AA Step Four Reading Video Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h6ZjNH5tlb8
April 2013 | AA Video Reading How It Works: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Rj3wPVvk3Q
April 2013 | AA Video Reading A Vision For You: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t8B5pqwGXgU
April 2013 | Video Daily Playlist Step Four: http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLC9C8658CBFCF357E

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  1. Don DonInLondon says

    April 8, 2013 at 4:40 am

    Alcoholics Anonymous | April 8 2013 | DonInLondon | Step 4 “Fear Less
    Inventory” step four: “creation gave us instincts for a purpose. Without
    them we wouldn’t be complete human beings.” First sentences in the twelve
    and twelve. Natural instincts hardwired into our consciousness, our brain.
    We have five senses, hardwired to provide instant information. Without
    these hardwired instincts, we would not be human beings. And for whatever
    reason, when our instincts are out of balance, our desires for something or
    someone, probably imbalanced because they do not fit societies codes and
    morals… The fearless moral inventory highlights where we may be out of step
    with common codes of behaviour which have been established for generations…
    Video For Today:
    Alcoholics Anonymous | April 8 2013 | DonInLondon | Step 4 “Fear Less
    Inventory”
    On Saturday, a friend suggested I might be going out with my camera to take
    photos and they were right, I felt like getting out. I absolutely love
    taking photographs of people, places and things because I love to see the
    truth of now. The season is changing and the mood of people is changing.
    The way places look in the spring, and all sorts of things come to life at
    this time of year. I feel it and have a desire to be out there. Saturday,
    still cold and the mood outside in the world seemed depressed. And then out
    on Sunday, sunshine and warmth, warming people, warming up places, and
    things are happening. My natural feelings: to be in the world and observing
    and taking part. And seeing the truth of now… I feel attracted to the
    warmth of the world, the warmth of people, places and things coming alive
    at last, after a long winter. I am of nature and I love nature and I love
    people. From the glamorous girl posing for a film crew, to the drunken man
    shouting on the steps of Saint Martin’s in the fields about the world
    coming to an end, I see it and feel it in the moment of now…

    If I were to think about what is wrong. Right now, the washing facilities
    need repairing, the drainage pipes are blocked and in another life, I would
    pick up the phone and call Pimlico plumbers who would sort it out in a
    couple of hours. It’s only been three weeks since the washing facilities
    broke down, and the drains backing up to the kitchen made life complicated
    over the weekend. If I were to raise expectations above what is possible
    for my landlord to do, and felt an entitlement to special treatment, over
    and above other people in the queue, my resentments could quickly pull me
    down into darkness and obscurity. I would become, “Don, the obscure…”
    Hiding away and rattling and raving at the unfairness of my plumbing
    system, not being fixed in the way I used to fix everything with a wad of
    cash in my pocket… Without the wad of cash in my pocket, and with a smile
    on my face, I do revel at being able to get out yesterday and take photos
    on my rambling on the electric bike, because my feet don’t work too well
    these days. And if I were to feel downtrodden because I can’t tread too
    far, and because of nerve damage in all my extremities, except the one down
    below which seems to be okay, I could be trudging the road and the journey
    with a depression, the size of the universe… Step four is important, my
    natural desires are good, but the ravages of time mean that some things are
    no longer possible and can be done as they used to be. The fearless moral
    inventory, and then step five, six and seven, change my outlook from an old
    life of fear, pride and ego to a new life of courage to change, faith in
    doing the next right thing and confidence to be me as I am just for today…

    Step four being the “pile of old life,” the extremes beyond natural desires
    for the love, inclusion, career, you name it, it was always about being
    with the right people, in the right places with the right things, working
    to extremes and playing to extremes. And eventually, the old life becomes
    more and more superficial, because we just cannot maintain unatural
    extremes to fill the gap of something we crave more than anything, that
    being love and affection. Of course, if we had understood what was missing,
    we might think we would have behaved differently. If our life experiences
    had been different, then maybe if we had not tried to be the poster boy or
    the poster girl for the Zeitgeist:”the spirit of the age,” we would not
    have tried so hard and failed so miserably to understand the essence of
    living. The younger people get to AA, the better in my opinion. Mine was a
    hard long road into desolation and misunderstandings about life because of
    failure and disappointment in my youth. We identify the truth, the
    recollections and the resentments and we let them go. There is no rush to
    fill the enormous gap when we stop our addiction. There is no fix in the
    new life, there is simply room to grow a new life and find what is right.
    By being open, honest and willing to change, we all find our freedom of
    choice on the journey of life, and whatever endeavour we choose today…

    I haven’t mentioned self-help books for a long time, because I thought I
    wanted to write one and it would be inspirational for other people. And I
    wanted to rewrite the big book, I wanted to rewrite the twelve and twelve,
    I wanted to make an impression? This was in the first ninety days of my
    recovery as I devoured as much literature as I could. I saw spelling
    mistakes and as well as that I felt there were mis-takes in the writing as
    well. And then I realised every story and every sentence was written in the
    raw, and my attempt to edit and impose my identity on it was pride and ego
    rising to the fore. People kept saying progress not perfect, and people
    kept saying just give it time, and people kept saying listen to the
    similarities and look for the similarities, because we are all different.
    My story is no more glorious or inglorious than any other. These days I do
    believe that we write our own book of self-help, we may not write it all
    down or write any of it down at all, and yet we share equally, and with
    equality, one day at a time… By all means write your self-help book because
    it will help you, and in doing so, you are sharing experience strength and
    hope and there may be similarities which makes all the difference to one
    person in the world. Usually it is you…

    All around us, the world is thinking hard about what next to do, aiming for
    the stars, being driven to extremes. We think about living the dream,
    fantasy and endeavour are good. And yet in our emotional and spiritual
    fellowship, we are always getting back to basics and standing on our own
    two feet. Emotional and spiritual: living in the moment of now, and all
    five senses working normally, we feel life as it is, and either we can cope
    with this reality. Or maybe we need some help with this reality? Humility
    to ask depends on all the twelve steps, because without humility progress
    is extremely difficult. The big world opens, if we are willing to ask for
    help and see what opportunities there may be, rather than using just our
    own resources, which led to calamity in the past. Feelings in the moment of
    now, from our senses, hardwired to help us when we are able to identify if
    we are: H. A. L. T. If we are hungry, angry, lonely and or tired. Courage
    to change, faith in doing the next right thing, and growing confidence to
    live life as nature intended, with all our senses working in the moment of
    now… And on top of all that we have our intellect and thinking capacities,
    working away trying to control what nature intended, just for a day?
    Feeling and thinking can be at odds on any given day…

    If we are feeling extremes, anxiety and urgency, usually we have left
    something unfinished or we simply want to move on. And in the first ninety
    days of recovery, I used to go to a meeting called “after eights,” and it
    was at eight in the evening. After eights referred to the people who spoke
    first, and shared their experience strength and hope of being eight years
    sober, and what life was like in later sobriety. I couldn’t even think of
    being eight years sober, it was an impossible thing to come from one day
    sober, to people being over eight years sober, and in some cases twenty
    thirty forty and fifty years sober. And then I got eight years continuous
    sobriety and wondered what all the fuss was about. What happened along the
    way? Patience and progress were not measured in years, patience and
    progress was only relevant one day at a time. And when people share, their
    wisdom of the years is really profound about the basics to keep fellowship
    working one day at a time. A fellowship of love, just for today and every
    day… There is no rush to an ending, and even when we hit milestones in
    life, they feel right sized hopefully and then another milestone happens
    today…

    Alcoholics Anonymous | April 8 2012 | DonInLondon | Step 4 “Fear Less
    Inventory” Today’s AA daily reflection: “an inside look, natural desires
    and instincts…” Step four is not a fearful moral inventory, it is a
    fearless moral inventory. The facts as we see them, written down to
    illustrate how we felt “our emotions at the time” and what happened and the
    consequences…
    Video For Today:
    April 9 2012 | AA 12 Steps In Action | Step 4 “Inventory” | Alcoholics
    Anonymous
    It is very difficult sometimes to work out what a natural instinct is, and
    our desires. And to what extent we may have found ourselves in other
    addictive behaviour around people places and things. The more we feared we
    were out of control or warped in our outlook the less likely we would share
    our shame and guilt with others. Once we take the lid off and realise that
    natural instincts and desires, often fantasies are not reality and need to
    be shared so we get a more balanced understanding of what happened…

    As a psychiatrist once said to me, “fantasy is a very necessary part of the
    human psyche.” It is when we cannot differentiate between what is possible
    and natural, and what is not possible and in the realms of dreams and
    fantasies that we cannot find the wisdom to know the difference…

    Fearless and thorough can be very revealing when we look at our history, a
    self-appraisal for our personal growth. So often we find that our actions
    and behaviour are so repetitive we get to a point when we want to stop
    looking and start wondering what to do about life today. However we tackled
    step four, if it reveals what got in the way of our progress, in my case
    fear, putting on a brave face and ego “my defects of character” and the
    things I lacked most, which now seem to be broadly courage, faith and
    confidence in just being another human being on the planet “shortcomings,
    lack of growth and self-esteem…”

    Step four is like any other step in the programme when it is approached in
    an open honest and willing way. Making it so big that it cannot be done is
    a mistake many people fall into. As soon as we stop drinking and start
    getting sober, we are already on all the steps. I went to meetings where
    the scrolls with the 12 steps and 12 traditions were hung on the wall and
    easily seen. Very often the scrolls are lost and meetings continue without
    them. And imagination makes some of the steps more difficult than others
    when we don’t see them all in context every day…

    DonInLondon 2005-2011

    April is a review of what step 4 means to me in my videos. A return to
    balance in my outlook and natural instincts, my feelings and being in the
    moment of now. When life is at extremes of good or bad, my feelings are
    too. This is where step 4 and then step 10 are in action and work in the
    moment. The big picture improves with guidance and wisdom from others.
    Higher Power and people rock!

    Truth Love & Wisdom: help me find who I may become today, letting go old
    fears opens up the door to new living, understanding how to be just me
    today. Balance and understanding our feelings, making choices based on real
    experiences, we let go expectations of doom or omnipotence, the difference
    between back then, and what is now..
    -/-
    AA Daily Reflection: AN INSIDE LOOK We want to find exactly how, when, and
    where our natural desires have warped us. We wish to look squarely at the
    unhappiness this has caused others and ourselves. By discovering what our
    emotional deformities are, we can move toward their correction TWELVE STEPS
    AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p.43
    Today I am no longer a slave to alcohol, yet in so many ways enslavement
    still threatens-my self, my desires, even my dreams. Yet without dreams I
    cannot exist; without dreams there is nothing to keep me moving forward. I
    must look inside myself, to free myself. I must call upon God’s power to
    face the person I’ve feared the most, the true me, the person God created
    me to be. Unless I can or until I do, I will always be running, and never
    be truly free. I ask God daily to show me such a freedom!
    -/-
    As Bill Sees It ~ Review the Day When we retire at night, we constructively
    review our day. Were we resentful, selfish, dishonest or afraid? Do we owe
    an apology? Have we kept something to ourselves which should be discussed
    with another person at once? Were we kind and loving toward all? What could
    we have done better? Were we thinking of ourselves most of the time? Or
    were we thinking of what we could do for others, of what we could pack into
    the stream of life? We must be careful not to drift into worry, remorse or
    morbid reflections, for that would diminish our usefulness to ourselves and
    to others. After making our review we ask God’s forgiveness and inquire
    what corrective measures should be taken. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, P. 86
    -/-
    Alcoholics Anonymous, 12 Steps AA, AA Step 4 Inventory, DonInLondon, Don
    Oddy,
    -/-

  2. Don DonInLondon says

    April 8, 2014 at 3:17 am

    Alcoholics Anonymous Blog & Video | April 8 2004 – 2014 | DonInLondon |
    Step 4 “Fear Less Inventory”

    April 8 Video
    Alcoholics Anonymous | Apr 8 2014 | DonInLondon | Step 4 “Fear Less
    Inventory”

    DonInLondon April 8, 2014: step four month: “fear less inventory.”
    Surrendering to the emotional and spiritual truth of now. I’m not sure how
    you would define the emotional and spiritual truth of now, because
    emotional is about feelings, and for me spiritual is seeing the reality and
    truth of now. My problem can be letting go my opinions and beliefs which
    cloud the issue of truth and how to cope with it.

    We seem to live in a world which is absolutely awash with beliefs and
    opinions. Most people have learned not to trust politicians and the
    government, because they say one thing and do something else behind our
    backs, until it is too late, they are in office and they are doing things
    which displease those who would have voted them into office. Even the most
    fundamental principles of science, which govern how the universe works are
    debated not only amongst scientists, the purpose of the universe is debated
    very often by theologians, and of course every human being has an opinion.

    Life works better in my case when I let go expectations and entitlements,
    get back to basics and try live with an open honest and willing approach to
    all endeavours. Sometimes, I know my expectations become quite agitated and
    I feel that entitlements I might delude myself with can make me very angry
    and resentful, when people, places and things do not do what they are
    supposed to do. Where I live, I need bucketful’s of forgiveness every
    single day. Or I might become a revolutionary in my dotage.

    Alcoholics Anonymous: a place where we are included, nobody ought to
    control another, and we find friendship. Friendship is based on love, the
    most elusive feeling when we are new to recovery. Seeing new people find
    Fellowship and friendship in the true sense of unconditional love is
    amazing. Of course there are those who might try to control, who might have
    other matters on their minds, fortunately there are less of them, and more
    of those who are open, honest and willing to help.

    There was a reading this morning, which suggested we might be able to
    control our feelings. Mood is something we have all the time, we wake up
    with our feelings and we rarely take notice of our feelings, because it is
    easier to rush into doing things we feel we ought to be doing. This leads
    to frustration, anger and resentment very quickly, because we do not give
    ourselves a break, to pray, or meditate or simply ask ourselves, “how am I
    feeling right now?” We are powerless over feelings, and only through action
    and reaction do we find ourselves in one mood or another. Feel good: likely
    to think good, likely to take action, which is good for everyone and not
    just us. Feel bad: likely to think badly, our actions, then become
    difficult because of resentment and entitlement to something else; we have
    to do the right thing. And if we don’t know what the right thing is, time
    to ask for help. Actions develop outcomes and then mood changes.

    On a careful note to self, “I have clinical depression, and without help I
    can find myself in a desolate place, and then asking for help is needed
    from professional sources who know me better than I know myself in those
    times.” Clinical depression is a condition I have had all my life, and at
    the moment, my mood is helped by facing reality rather than trying to make
    reality be the way I want it. Reality doesn’t work like that.

    DonInLondon 2004 – 2013

    Alcoholics Anonymous | April 8 2013 | DonInLondon | Step 4 “Fear Less
    Inventory” step four: “creation gave us instincts for a purpose. Without
    them we wouldn’t be complete human beings.” First sentences in the twelve
    and twelve. Natural instincts hardwired into our consciousness, our brain.
    We have five senses, hardwired to provide instant information. Without
    these hardwired instincts, we would not be human beings. And for whatever
    reason, when our instincts are out of balance, our desires for something or
    someone, probably imbalanced because they do not fit society’s codes and
    morals… The fearless moral inventory highlights where we may be out of step
    with common codes of behaviour which have been established for generations…

    On Saturday, a friend suggested I might be going out with my camera to take
    photos and they were right, I felt like getting out. I absolutely love
    taking photographs of people, places and things because I love to see the
    truth of now. The season is changing and the mood of people is changing.
    The way places look in the spring, and all sorts of things come to life at
    this time of year. I feel it and have a desire to be out there. Saturday,
    still cold and the mood outside in the world seemed depressed. And then out
    on Sunday, sunshine and warmth, warming people, warming up places, and
    things are happening. My natural feelings: to be in the world and observing
    and taking part. And seeing the truth of now… I feel attracted to the
    warmth of the world, the warmth of people, places and things coming alive
    at last, after a long winter. I am of nature and I love nature and I love
    people. From the glamorous girl posing for a film crew, to the drunken man
    shouting on the steps of Saint Martin’s in the fields about the world
    coming to an end, I see it and feel it in the moment of now…

    If I were to think about what is wrong. Right now, the washing facilities
    need repairing, the drainage pipes are blocked and in another life, I would
    pick up the phone and call Pimlico plumbers who would sort it out in a
    couple of hours. It’s only been three weeks since the washing facilities
    broke down, and the drains backing up to the kitchen made life complicated
    over the weekend. If I were to raise expectations above what is possible
    for my landlord to do, and felt an entitlement to special treatment, over
    and above other people in the queue, my resentments could quickly pull me
    down into darkness and obscurity. I would become, “Don, the obscure…”
    Hiding away and rattling and raving at the unfairness of my plumbing
    system, not being fixed in the way I used to fix everything with a wad of
    cash in my pocket… Without the wad of cash in my pocket, and with a smile
    on my face, I do revel at being able to get out yesterday and take photos
    on my rambling on the electric bike, because my feet don’t work too well
    these days. And if I were to feel downtrodden because I can’t tread too
    far, and because of nerve damage in all my extremities, except the one down
    below which seems to be okay, I could be trudging the road and the journey
    with a depression, the size of the universe… Step four is important, my
    natural desires are good, but the ravages of time mean that some things are
    no longer possible and can be done as they used to be. The fearless moral
    inventory, and then step five, six and seven, change my outlook from an old
    life of fear, pride and ego to a new life of courage to change, faith in
    doing the next right thing and confidence to be me as I am just for today…

    Step four being the “pile of old life,” the extremes beyond natural desires
    for the love, inclusion, career, you name it, it was always about being
    with the right people, in the right places with the right things, working
    to extremes and playing to extremes. And eventually, the old life becomes
    more and more superficial, because we just cannot maintain unnatural
    extremes to fill the gap of something we crave more than anything, that
    being love and affection. Of course, if we had understood what was missing,
    we might think we would have behaved differently. If our life experiences
    had been different, then maybe if we had not tried to be the poster boy or
    the poster girl for the Zeitgeist:”the spirit of the age,” we would not
    have tried so hard and failed so miserably to understand the essence of
    living. The younger people get to AA, the better in my opinion. Mine was a
    hard long road into desolation and misunderstandings about life because of
    failure and disappointment in my youth. We identify the truth, the
    recollections and the resentments and we let them go. There is no rush to
    fill the enormous gap when we stop our addiction. There is no fix in the
    new life, there is simply room to grow a new life and find what is right.
    By being open, honest and willing to change, we all find our freedom of
    choice on the journey of life, and whatever endeavour we choose today…

    I haven’t mentioned self-help books for a long time, because I thought I
    wanted to write one and it would be inspirational for other people. And I
    wanted to rewrite the big book, I wanted to rewrite the twelve and twelve,
    I wanted to make an impression? This was in the first ninety days of my
    recovery as I devoured as much literature as I could. I saw spelling
    mistakes and as well as that I felt there were mis-takes in the writing as
    well. And then I realised every story and every sentence was written in the
    raw, and my attempt to edit and impose my identity on it was pride and ego
    rising to the fore. People kept saying progress not perfect, and people
    kept saying just give it time, and people kept saying listen to the
    similarities and look for the similarities, because we are all different.
    My story is no more glorious or inglorious than any other. These days I do
    believe that we write our own book of self-help, we may not write it all
    down or write any of it down at all, and yet we share equally, and with
    equality, one day at a time… By all means write your self-help book because
    it will help you, and in doing so, you are sharing experience strength and
    hope and there may be similarities which makes all the difference to one
    person in the world. Usually it is you…

    All around us, the world is thinking hard about what next to do, aiming for
    the stars, being driven to extremes. We think about living the dream,
    fantasy and endeavour are good. And yet in our emotional and spiritual
    fellowship, we are always getting back to basics and standing on our own
    two feet. Emotional and spiritual: living in the moment of now, and all
    five senses working normally, we feel life as it is, and either we can cope
    with this reality. Or maybe we need some help with this reality? Humility
    to ask depends on all the twelve steps, because without humility progress
    is extremely difficult. The big world opens, if we are willing to ask for
    help and see what opportunities there may be, rather than using just our
    own resources, which led to calamity in the past. Feelings in the moment of
    now, from our senses, hardwired to help us when we are able to identify if
    we are: H. A. L. T. If we are hungry, angry, lonely and or tired. Courage
    to change, faith in doing the next right thing, and growing confidence to
    live life as nature intended, with all our senses working in the moment of
    now… And on top of all that we have our intellect and thinking capacities,
    working away trying to control what nature intended, just for a day?
    Feeling and thinking can be at odds on any given day…

    If we are feeling extremes, anxiety and urgency, usually we have left
    something unfinished or we simply want to move on. And in the first ninety
    days of recovery, I used to go to a meeting called “after eights,” and it
    was at eight in the evening. After eights referred to the people who spoke
    first, and shared their experience strength and hope of being eight years
    sober, and what life was like in later sobriety. I couldn’t even think of
    being eight years sober, it was an impossible thing to come from one day
    sober, to people being over eight years sober, and in some cases twenty
    thirty forty and fifty years sober. And then I got eight years continuous
    sobriety and wondered what all the fuss was about. What happened along the
    way? Patience and progress were not measured in years, patience and
    progress was only relevant one day at a time. And when people share, their
    wisdom of the years is really profound about the basics to keep fellowship
    working one day at a time. A fellowship of love, just for today and every
    day… There is no rush to an ending, and even when we hit milestones in
    life, they feel right sized hopefully and then another milestone happens
    today…

    Alcoholics Anonymous | April 8 2012 | DonInLondon | Step 4 “Fear Less
    Inventory” Today’s AA daily reflection: “an inside look, natural desires
    and instincts…” Step four is not a fearful moral inventory, it is a
    fearless moral inventory. The facts as we see them, written down to
    illustrate how we felt “our emotions at the time” and what happened and the
    consequences…
    Video For Today:
    Alcoholics Anonymous | April 9 | DonInLondon | Step 4 “Fear Less Inventory”
    It is very difficult sometimes to work out what a natural instinct is, and
    our desires. And to what extent we may have found ourselves in other
    addictive behaviour around people places and things. The more we feared we
    were out of control or warped in our outlook the less likely we would share
    our shame and guilt with others. Once we take the lid off and realise that
    natural instincts and desires, often fantasies are not reality and need to
    be shared so we get a more balanced understanding of what happened…

    As a psychiatrist once said to me, “fantasy is a very necessary part of the
    human psyche.” It is when we cannot differentiate between what is possible
    and natural, and what is not possible and in the realms of dreams and
    fantasies that we cannot find the wisdom to know the difference…

    Fearless and thorough can be very revealing when we look at our history, a
    self-appraisal for our personal growth. So often we find that our actions
    and behaviour are so repetitive we get to a point when we want to stop
    looking and start wondering what to do about life today. However we tackled
    step four, if it reveals what got in the way of our progress, in my case
    fear, putting on a brave face and ego “my defects of character” and the
    things I lacked most, which now seem to be broadly courage, faith and
    confidence in just being another human being on the planet “shortcomings,
    lack of growth and self-esteem…”

    Step four is like any other step in the programme when it is approached in
    an open honest and willing way. Making it so big that it cannot be done is
    a mistake many people fall into. As soon as we stop drinking and start
    getting sober, we are already on all the steps. I went to meetings where
    the scrolls with the 12 steps and 12 traditions were hung on the wall and
    easily seen. Very often the scrolls are lost and meetings continue without
    them. And imagination makes some of the steps more difficult than others
    when we don’t see them all in context every day…

    DonInLondon 2005-2011

    April is a review of what step 4 means to me in my videos. A return to
    balance in my outlook and natural instincts, my feelings and being in the
    moment of now. When life is at extremes of good or bad, my feelings are
    too. This is where step 4 and then step 10 are in action and work in the
    moment. The big picture improves with guidance and wisdom from others.
    Higher Power and people rock!

    Truth Love & Wisdom: help me find who I may become today, letting go old
    fears opens up the door to new living, understanding how to be just me
    today. Balance and understanding our feelings, making choices based on real
    experiences, we let go expectations of doom or omnipotence, the difference
    between back then, and what is now..
    -/-
    AA Daily Reflection: AN INSIDE LOOK We want to find exactly how, when, and
    where our natural desires have warped us. We wish to look squarely at the
    unhappiness this has caused others and ourselves. By discovering what our
    emotional deformities are, we can move toward their correction TWELVE STEPS
    AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p.43
    Today I am no longer a slave to alcohol, yet in so many ways enslavement
    still threatens-my self, my desires, even my dreams. Yet without dreams I
    cannot exist; without dreams there is nothing to keep me moving forward. I
    must look inside myself, to free myself. I must call upon God’s power to
    face the person I’ve feared the most, the true me, the person God created
    me to be. Unless I can or until I do, I will always be running, and never
    be truly free. I ask God daily to show me such a freedom!
    -/-
    As Bill Sees It ~ Review the Day When we retire at night, we constructively
    review our day. Were we resentful, selfish, dishonest or afraid? Do we owe
    an apology? Have we kept something to ourselves which should be discussed
    with another person at once? Were we kind and loving toward all? What could
    we have done better? Were we thinking of ourselves most of the time? Or
    were we thinking of what we could do for others, of what we could pack into
    the stream of life? We must be careful not to drift into worry, remorse or
    morbid reflections, for that would diminish our usefulness to ourselves and
    to others. After making our review we ask God’s forgiveness and inquire
    what corrective measures should be taken. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, P. 86

    Step Four Video 12 And 12
    Alcoholics Anonymous | Step 4 Reading 12 & 12 |

    Alcoholics Anonymous Videos, AA is for Alcoholics, AA 12 Steps, Addiction
    And Recovery, DonInLondon, Don Oddy,

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