Statistics will show that more 50% of people have a close family member who is an alcohol abuser. When the drinker is a husband or a wife, the effect can be damaging and traumatic on the family. Not only is the abuser’s mental and physical placed at risk, but also the marital relationship and family unit can be affected significantly. The effects on other family members will be very traumatic and long-lasting.
Psychologists say that when a spouse is an alcoholic, the other spouse becomes addicted to taking care of the alcoholic. Compulsive taking care of the alcoholic grows alongside with the deteriorating care of the drinker for himself or herself. He neglects and abuses his or her family, depletes financial resources and creates legal problems for the family
Alcohol Abuse Results in Abuse of Spouse
- It is not easy to live with a person who is a habitual alcohol drinker. He or she will always find fault and blame the other spouse of his or her miseries. The spouse feels inadequate, confused and is embarrassed about the situation.
- Most wives fear for their lives, as well as that of their children. They become psychologically affected. They live in fear. They cower or even hide when the alcoholic comes home.
- Some spouses become slaves to their alcoholic partner. They provide the best food for the alcoholic while they skimp on the meal of their children.
- Alcohol abusers become bullies and they bully their spouse. Bullying can lose self-confidence and develop inferiority.
- Most battered women are victims of an alcohol abuser. Their alcoholic spouse becomes violent and may inflict physical injuries on the wife.
- Spouses of alcohol abusers live an unhappy life and they feel like they are prisoners in their marriage. Much as they like to get out of it, they cannot because of the children.
- Spouses of alcoholics submissively give in to what their alcoholic spouse demands. They allow themselves to be used in sex even when it is against their will. They are categorically raped.
- Alcoholics have the tendency to have sexual activities with other partners, not his or her spouse. When the sex partner has some sexually transmitted disease, it is transmitted to the spouse.
- Because alcoholics deplete the financial resources as he or she spends more on alcohol, the other spouse has to find ways to get additional financial resources, thus neglecting the children.