Step 3 Alcoholics Anonymous Explained And Worksheet: Step Three: “Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him.” https://youtu.be/PKl87uQhSwU
Link to Full Alcoholics Anonymous 12 Steps Program: http://sobercoach1.com/12-steps/
Step One and Step Two demand personal reflection and acceptance. Now, with Step Three, we begin to take action – the beginning of the continuous action we will take – daily – to stay sober.
Step Three: “Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him.”
The Big Book is aware of your possible hesitance about doing this at first, so the authors ask, “So how, exactly, can the willing person continue to turn his will and his life over to the Higher Power? He made a beginning, we have seen, when he commenced to rely upon A.A. for the solution of his alcohol problem.”
The Big Book observes that “Practicing Step Three is like the opening of a door which to all appearances is still closed and locked. All we need is a key, and the decision to swing the door open. There is only one key, and it is called willingness. Once un-locked by willingness, the door opens almost of itself, and looking through it, we shall see a pathway beside which is an inscription. It reads: ‘This is the way to a faith that works.’
“In the first two Steps we were engaged in reflection. We saw that we were powerless over alcohol, but we also perceived that faith of some kind, if only in A.A. itself, is possible to anyone.”
For me, Step Three is tantamount to letting go and allowing God to take control, instead of me trying to control events that are beyond my control. Some of this loss of control can lead me to become worried or anxious about an outcome that has not happened, and that’s when I call on God. And I want to emphasize that this step needs to be taken daily and perhaps hourly until we become comfortable with allowing God to take control.
This is a difficult step and one that most of us revisit often. Alcoholics, like most people, love to take control, but we need to understand that we have very limited control of most things in our lives. Most of behave ego-centrically, believing that if only people would do as we say, then all will be well. But as directors of this “show,” we find it doesn’t come off well; people disappoint, we feel disappointment. We have to quit expecting the rest of the world to meet our expectations. Instead, we turn our lives over to the will of God, not our own.
Here are two specific examples from my life.
● Relationships: So often we want to control another person. Perhaps we want our kids, family, spouse, or co-workers to respond in a certain way. Despite every attempt to change the other person, we most often find this is impossible. Letting go means focusing on what is in my control and leaving the rest in God’s hands. Sometimes his Will is not what we ideally want, but we can be at peace that we are living life on life’s terms.
● Acquiring: We often strive to acquiring things of a material nature, or recognition, status, and the like. We often try very hard to direct the outcomes and if we fall short, we become disappointed, depressed and full of self-pity. Letting go and allowing God to take charge in these situations is essential. When God’s will is done, we may find out who we become outshines the attainment of what I mentioned above.
In terms of practical advice, a daily prayer in the morning thanking God for another day and asking for the strength to ensure that His will is done, is a must.
Step 3 Alcoholics Anonymous Explained And Worksheet: https://youtu.be/PKl87uQhSwU